“If you really want to earn some brownie points, you could pop the question a few months earlier as this research shows that’s when women think it’s the perfect time to get engaged.” The poll also revealed that one in ten has even set a time limit on when they get engaged and if their partner hasn’t agreed to marry before the self-imposed deadline, more than 75 per cent would end the relationship. Marriage is about commitment; the length of dating does not matter. A baby takes nine months before being born; a good relationship should take the same. Three-year anniversary Alexandra Campos of the National Wedding Show said: “Men everywhere should be getting ready to buy that ring and get down on one knee if they are anywhere near the three-year anniversary.The argument is that if you two know you are meant for each other, whether you wait for one day or ten years, then there is no difference as nothing about you two will change. Gichana Kiunjuri a pharmacist in Nairobi believes that the decision to marry is something a man knows, at times the moment he lays his eyes on a woman, other times with time.
The third stage, that of evaluation last two to four months.
Here the couple actively and volitionally evaluates the differences they have encountered and determines if the relationship is worth the difference both of them recognise.
Such people feel that length of time does not really matter so long as the parties decide to stick with each other no matter what.
They then go ahead to point out examples of couples that new each other for barely three months before they tied the knot, and ten years later, they are still together.
Such people feel that marriage is such a weighty matter that one should be totally convinced before embarking on anything.
Many women though complain of the torture of waiting and waiting, sometimes for what seems like forever for the man to propose.During this sage, crisis situations begin to show up as both speak their opinions and perspectives that are in disagreement with the other person.Franck advises that any relationship should progress to this stage before emotional commitments are made.“The syrupy, romantic infatuation type of love has evolved throughout the previous stages into the mature, steady, forgiving, serving love,” Franck says.“Each person is now intent on what they can bring to the relationship and give to the other.Mr Dennis Franck, director of Assemblies of God Single/Young Adult Ministries says that the ideal period should be one year.