While I wish that there was some sort of secret formula I could share here about finding that person, sadly, there is not. Here are five mistakes to avoid when dating a divorced man.1. Having dated a divorced guy, I can speak from experience of what not to do and the mistakes to avoid if you do decide to go down this path with a divorced guy, especially if they have kids.
I have tried my hand at match making a time or 2 with friends, and discovered that I’m not great at that either.
But I would like to suggest that if my story is any indication, there is a person out there who is the right fit for you and your children from a former marriage.
While I hoped that she would want to be involved with my daughter, I was not going to require it at the expense losing the relationship.
Instead of taking a pass, my partner rolled up her sleeves and engaged fully from the very beginning. There is obviously a very fine line between being involved and causing drama that is unique to each post-divorce situation when there is a child in the mix. Is the ex feeling like their toes are getting stepped on? Like a seasoned pro, my partner was able to identify all of the potential landmines and navigate graciously to avoid them.
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I never insinuated to my partner that she would need to take on any sort of step-motherly role in my child’s life.
In fact, I expressed to her that I would not think any less of her if she wanted to take a completely hands-off approach when it came to my daughter.
Because of this, being divorced is a fact that actually helped my current partner and I identify each other as people who were serious about finding a lasting relationship.
For her, it meant that I (at least at some point) did not have commitment issues.
” In my personal experience, the dialogue that comes next has a high probability to make or break what could be a budding relationship.